I’ve never quite understood why some people try to bring others down. If someone has a dream, a goal, a plan, why would another try and crush them?
When I first jumped into real estate, purchasing my first house in my early twenty’s, I got nothing but negative feedback and response. I didn’t have one supportive person, besides my Mom. Not family, not friends. Naysayers are a nasty bunch!!! They said that I was crazy; said that I would ruin my credit, and… my life. I look back now and laugh. Those same naysaying people are the ones asking for advice; wondering how I did it.
Misery likes company. Naysayers are an unhappy lot, and when people are unhappy with their own lives, they want to drag everyone else down into the gutter with them. You make them have to look at themselves closer and wonder what they are doing wrong, why they don’t have exciting goals and plans.
Naysayers are people who throw an abundance of caution into your breeze. They are people who either have no greater aspiration, or have given up on attaining it. To feel better about themselves, they try to bring you down with them into their abyss of unhappiness.
Jealousy is a VERY, VERY powerful emotion. Naysayers want something that you have; whether it be resources, determination, skill or intelligence. They want it, but don’t know how to get it, so they don’t want you to have it either. I say this to my kids all the time. Every time someone tells you that you can’t do something, it’s because they wish that they could do the same. “Take it as a compliment.”
With a plan to live on a boat and take kids on an amazing cruising adventure, a fair dose of naysay is to be expected. After all, sailing away into the sunset is the dream. Few have the guts, resource, or most important, the determination to pull it off. The naysayer doesn’t want anyone else to do what he believes that he can’t do. I am a firm believer that the more you try and bring someone else down, the more successful they will be.
The naysayer is afraid. They are afraid to make mistakes. Afraid to take chances. Afraid to fail. They want to do amazing things, but are afraid to do them. They want you to be afraid too. They will try and scare you. Fill your head with doom and gloom. Plenty of worst case scenarios and every gory detail of what could go wrong. They will point out your lack of experience. Tell you that you’re clueless, foolish and irresponsible. Threaten misery and financial ruin. They will do and say anything to discourage you from fulfilling your plan, your goal, your challenge, your dream. They are afraid to attempt to reach happiness, and don’t want you to attempt to get there either. Because then, you’ll have it; and they want it. If they can’t have it, they don’t want you to have it either.
Stand strong. Don’t listen. Ignore the naysayer. Feel proud that you are tough enough to do what the naysayer is afraid to do. Be determined, and don’t look back. Know that you will succeed. Take what you want. Tell yourself that failure is not an option, then go be a success. The naysayer can sit back, munch his mediocre popcorn, and watch, as you do, what he said that you could not do.